My Pastor And I is an article that helps believers to understand how they can have amazing relationships with their pastor. Having a better relationship with your pastor is important even to your own spiritual growth.
As a concerned pastor myself, I want church members to understand me so that I can help them.
Serving in a pastoral ministry is not an easy task or let me put it this way, leading a church congregation is not an easy job but with the help of God, and if you allowed the Holy Spirit to use you, and to lead you, you can do it successfully.
Jesus says, without me, ye can do nothing. Yes, that is absolutely correct, as a pastor of a local church, you must really depend on Christ to help you if you don’t want to lead your flock in the wrong direction.
So pastors can lead the church with the help of God, and not only that, he needs to work together with his people so that the work of God will go to the next towns. As a member of a local church, I always thought that the pastor does not need my help.
I have the misconception that he can get the job done on his own without my help, but the more I experience what pastoral ministry is all about, I realized that being in the ministry calls for a better relationship between the pastor and the church members.
How to Have a Better Relationship with Your Pastor
First, realize that your pastor is not perfect.
You just have to understand that your pastor will make mistakes. You think since he is a pastor, he is perfect, holy, and impeccable. I got some news for you, that is not right. Everybody looks up to pastors as angels, and whenever they do something wrong, we are disappointed in them. Therefore, when you see that your pastor is not a super saint, it will really help you to better help your pastor, and whenever he does and says something wrong, you will not be surprised.
Bible says, For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good, and sinneth not. (Ecclesiastes 7:20 KJV)Bible
God knows that as long as we are here, there will be outside pressures that are contrary to God’s will that want to take away our testimony. God knows that we are going to make mistakes, and that is why it says in the Bible, “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us. (1 John 1:8-10 KJV)
Second, Pray for him.
Brethren, pray for us. (1 Thessalonians 5:25 KJV)
Your pastor is not a perfect person, but you need to pray for him. He needs your prayers. Do you pray for your pastor?
Most people hate their pastors to extent that they do not wish them anything good. Some of the complaints people have with their pastor, how many times have you taken them up to God in prayer? We started spreading what he does wrong, his area of weakness to others, and those people talk about it to others, and that is how you spoil your pastor’s name.
You can help your pastor by praying for him, he really needs your prayer more than anything else, your prayer will bring heaven down to him, and it will refresh him. You know by praying for him, you are helping him with his burden.
I pray for my pastor, his wife, and his children, did he ask me to? No, but I have the burden to pray for him. He needs your prayer, and when you pray for him, it will take away every grudges, bitterness, and anger you have toward him.
Thirdly, Pay him on time.
Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and doctrine. For the scripture saith, Thou shalt not muzzle the ox that treadeth out the corn. And, The labourer is worthy of his reward. (1 Timothy 5:17-18 KJV)
He labors in the things of God, you need to treat him well. He labors to give you good messages, he prays for you, he visits you, and he calls you. The best way to show how much you appreciate him is to pay him on time.
Fourth, Be Patience with him.
Sometimes, your pastors may have to rebuke and chastise you, but remember this, he loves you. He has issues that he deals with it too. He got church problems, family problems, personal, and emotional problems. Therefore, you need to be patient with him just as much as you want him to be patient with you, and as I have said, he is not perfect just because he is a pastor.
I have seen churches where their pastors mean nothing to them, but guess what you can improve your relationship with your pastor, and he can become a better pastor if you do all these things.