We are seeing more and more church split today than ever, and church split is a result of members who do not learn to get along, and it is important for believers to learn the acts of getting along in the Lord’s church.
I strongly believe that for a church to reach its potential, members must get along if not there is going to be a colossal failure in her efforts to fulfill her missions for the Lord.
Three principles on how church members can get along with each other.
Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;
But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:
From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.
(Ephesians 4:11-16 KJV)
The local church is an assembly or congregation of believers for the purpose of carrying the great commission to the world.
And in the verses above, we can see the reasons why we have pastors, and teachers in a local church today:
- Perfecting of the saints
- Work of the ministry
- Edifying of the body of Christ
So when Christians congregate in a local church, they are there for the purpose of growing in grace and in the knowledge of Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and while meeting together as members of the body of Christ, we need to understand some things that will help us to get along well.
1. We must understand that we are different
For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office: (Romans 12:4 KJV)
We are members of the body of Christ, but we have different functions, therefore we must understand each other’s difference.
So Mr. Segun must understand that Mr. Jones has different functions, but still, they are still the same in the body of Christ.
Our diversities make us unique in the things that we do for the Lord so that all glory and honor will be God’s alone. We must appreciate and embrace the uniqueness of individuals in the body of Christ.
For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office:
Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith;
Or ministry, let us wait on our ministering: or he that teacheth, on teaching;
Or he that exhorteth, on exhortation: he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that sheweth mercy, with cheerfulness. (Romans 12:4, 6-8 KJV)
2. There must be genuine love among the members
If the church is going to help her member to reach their potential, they must understand the importance of genuine love among members.
The early Church and Christians were able to accomplish great things for the Lord because of their love one for another.
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge;
and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
3. There must be cooperation
What is cooperation?
The situation in which people work together to do something: the actions of someone who is being helpful by doing what is wanted or asked for. Therefore, in order for members to work and get along together, it requires cooperation.
If the foot shall say, Because I am not the hand, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?
And if the ear shall say, Because I am not the eye, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?
If the whole body were an eye, where were the hearing? If the whole were hearing, where were the smelling?
But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him.
(1 Corinthians 12:15-18 KJV)